Between surfing the net, having three co-workers getting married in the next year, magazines, and friends, I have plenty of encouragement and plenty of people to bounce ideas off of. This must be good then, right? While this does have its advantages, it also has disadvantages...
When we (read: I...my fiancee is wonderful but he gets tired of wedding stuff quite quickly) started planning, I was full of idealism. I was going to be unique. People would talk about our wedding. Not just to tell us how nice it was because they have to tell us that, but they would talk about it down the line, remembering that it was a beautiful day and a beautiful wedding and so on and so forth. I had some great ideas that I was certain would be within our limited budget and would be amazing.
I quickly learned that every wedding idea ever has already been had. By someone other than me. I thought I had come to terms with this...that my wedding pictures, aside from the cast, would be a carbon copy of someone else's. I figured, well, there are over two million weddings in the US per year. Of course things have been done before. It's okay. And for the most part, it is. Just because it's not going to be exactly unique doesn't mean it doesn't fit my fiancee and myself.
What's really getting to me is the lingering insecurity that those weddings will be better. Maybe because they have a larger budget. Maybe because they have a professional wedding planner. Maybe because other brides have dreamed of this day since they were3 1/2 and I haven't. Maybe because other women are more crafty, more imaginative, more fabulous. Maybe because other women didn't pass up their dream gown and settle for second best...still beautiful, but not The Dress. Maybe...maybe...maybe this whole thing is going to be a failure. What if we don't have amazing memories? What if its not a beautiful day, after all, but a culmination of stress and worry that ignites and ruins the day?
I just want to go down to the courthouse and call it good.
let me just say this from my limited but relevant experience. my wedding was not my first choice. i stressed day in and day out about whether i would be happy with it. i almost died multiple times.
ReplyDeletebut on that day, it wasn't about my dress or the decorations or anything else. in fact...if i didn't have photographic evidence i would not have been able to tell you who was even there. it was all about ted. and it always will be about him.
so try not to stress your self out too much. i know you wanna be perfect, as did i, but i promise that no matter what little details get missed or overlooked, you will think your day is perfect.
and wow am i cheesy lol